This is how distracted I can get

I end up not posting for awhile, because I get caught up in everything else.

Plus I'm just so tired by the time Ook goes to bed, that all I want to do is sit on the couch and relax.

I want to rant here. Because suddenly it's popping up everywhere again... the whole stay home moms vs working moms.

Let me start off by saying... I have great respect for moms in general. Being a mom is not an easy job.

But I'm starting to hit a stand point where I think stay at home moms have it a little easier then working moms. Why?

For one simple reason:

They get to be home all day. Yes, there are things to do. Places to go.

But working oms have to do all of that AND work 40 hours a week. Well, unless they are part time. That's different. But they still spend some hours out of the house.

So... I work. This part depends on the job too... but I work in a completely physical job. I pull, push, lift, move, haul, etc. I pull 300lb + pallets at a time. I lift things over my head constantly. I am physically exhausted by the time I get home.

And then I have a baby to take care of. A baby to feed, bathe, entertain, and just spend time with. And all I want to do is sit down for 10 minutes and eat, because I don't have the opportunity to take any breaks at work because I run a department all by myself. Literally. There is not a single other person in my department anymore. Because they have cut my hours that bad. And I cannot let things slide. I have deadlines.

A stay at home mom, she has things to do, but if she vacuums the stairs tomorrow instead, she isn't going to get fired. Is she?

So, I come home, and on top of all of the baby stuff, I also have to clean. I have to vacuum, sweep, mop, do dishes, laundry, and general pick up. Whatever else I'm forgetting.

And I'm sure as Luke gets older, I'll have other things. I don't know... soccer, karate. Another baby. By the end of the night, I am tired. I haven't stopped really moving, unless I decide one day that I'm going to forget that there is food dried onto the kitchen floor and sit down during nap time... if I'm home for it.

On my days off, I get more accomplished, and get to relax and even enjoy time with Luke.

A couple weeks ago when I was on vacation for the week, I actually didn't lose my cool with him more then a handful of times. I was ten hundred times less stressed.

I am really tired of hearing that stay home moms have it so much harder because they don't get adult interaction, and they only have kids to talk to, etc etc.

That is a personal choice. Yes, the day is hectic, yes, there is things to do. But you know what? I know that every single stay at home mom in my life (not really including my march moms since I can't say what they do from personal experience) sit down for a couple hours every day, and watch a movie with the kids, or lay down and take a nap during their nap time. It is very possible that a phone call could be made in that time period. Or better yet, there are playgroups EVERYWHERE. They aren't just for kids! Other adults tend to go too.

So I've decided I'm hopping the fence. I think working moms have it harder then stay at home moms. I am not saying stay at home moms sit around doing nothing. They are busy, they have things to do. But you don't have to add on the extra hours out of the house. There is more time to stretch things out, and unless you have some kind of crazy control freak husband, which means GET THE F*CK OUT, you can take your time and let the dishes sit an extra few hours.

I'm beyond stressed from trying to tackle it all. I want to come home and not have a whole other job to do. I don't want my "me" time to be the 10 minutes when I drive to my moms to switch laundry loads.

So now, I'm sure if someone reads this, it may blow up in my face, but I frankly don't care. I needed to vent somewhere.

I will never think stay at home moms do nothing. They are amazing.

But so are working moms, and when they have to come home and do a "stay at home mom job" too, it makes them a little bit stronger, in my honest opinion.

Now I'm going to go shower and sleep so that I can start over again tomorrow.