So it's taking me too much time to think up a rant. So instead of a specific target tonight, I have a few things on my mind.
1) Pregnancy hormones suck sometimes. If you get pregnant with a person, and they are next to you every day, at home waiting for you, sometimes, you will have to take it out on them. So stop taking it out people who are your friends instead. Don't tell your significant other you won't be mean to him, and instead spend it all on your friends.
2) I am keeping up on house work. A lot better then I used to. So does that by slacking in one department it means to freak out about it? I'm sorry, but at this age, I see no point in keeping up on toy clean up. He pulls out all 800 of them every day. So if I leave some out, deal with it. Or clean it yourself. Stop expecting me to do it. I have a hundred other things to do. I'm tired.
3) I do not randomly decide to go into grocery stores, wearing the uniform, and stock shelves. Yes, I work there. Please, stop asking.
I need to start making a list of topics to discuss on here.
Chris and I are planning on making baby two, so I've been preoccupied. I'll have an idea, and then completely forget it, because I get so distracted by everything.
I'll try and work on it. As annoying as I am, lol.
Saturday, April 28, 2012
Saturday, April 7, 2012
They're my kids, not yours.
There's that whole "crunchy" vs "silky" parent thing going on, right?
Well... I'm tired of it. There's too much competition out there now. We are all PARENTS. That is it. We are all trying to achieve ONE goal: to get our children out into the real world in one piece. To raise them to be productive, happy, and as normal as can be people.
I'm sure a lot of moms would have a massive heart attack that my 13 month old son had an oreo tonight. Well, half of one. I of course had to eat the other half because it was an oreo.
But besides all of that, we need to respect how people raise their children. You have zero rights to that child next to you. Yes, obviously if the parent is doing something horrible I hope you grab that child and try to make a break for it while using that fancy phone to call the cops instead of ignoring it and just doing a tweet or facebook status about the horrible thing the parent is doing.
Online baby groups for example: you rage and yell at someone at how horrible they are when they make a post about doing something... but what are the chances that you would say it to the person directly? Not a lot would.
So tonight I fed Luke an oreo after he refused item after item of food that he normally loves to eat because he has both his upper molars coming in and he barely napped. So I caved to get him to be quiet for 30 seconds while I beat my head through a wall. Then he was also happy for the following 5 minutes and not screaming. It. Was. Amazing.
You fed your child organically grown grass and goat milk. Or something equally gross. I'm not going to give you that look and be all "what the hell is wrong with you?!"
But I'm sure you'd love to give me a lecture on how horrible I am and how my child is going to grow up to be obese and diabetic or something.
I'm tired and cranky. I'm going to go eat my pizza, and find a good book to read in bed.
Well... I'm tired of it. There's too much competition out there now. We are all PARENTS. That is it. We are all trying to achieve ONE goal: to get our children out into the real world in one piece. To raise them to be productive, happy, and as normal as can be people.
I'm sure a lot of moms would have a massive heart attack that my 13 month old son had an oreo tonight. Well, half of one. I of course had to eat the other half because it was an oreo.
But besides all of that, we need to respect how people raise their children. You have zero rights to that child next to you. Yes, obviously if the parent is doing something horrible I hope you grab that child and try to make a break for it while using that fancy phone to call the cops instead of ignoring it and just doing a tweet or facebook status about the horrible thing the parent is doing.
Online baby groups for example: you rage and yell at someone at how horrible they are when they make a post about doing something... but what are the chances that you would say it to the person directly? Not a lot would.
So tonight I fed Luke an oreo after he refused item after item of food that he normally loves to eat because he has both his upper molars coming in and he barely napped. So I caved to get him to be quiet for 30 seconds while I beat my head through a wall. Then he was also happy for the following 5 minutes and not screaming. It. Was. Amazing.
You fed your child organically grown grass and goat milk. Or something equally gross. I'm not going to give you that look and be all "what the hell is wrong with you?!"
But I'm sure you'd love to give me a lecture on how horrible I am and how my child is going to grow up to be obese and diabetic or something.
I'm tired and cranky. I'm going to go eat my pizza, and find a good book to read in bed.
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Daycare and their costs
So there is a repeating sentence going through my mommy groups: "Well, if you can't afford daycare the obvious choice is to get a second job to cover the costs"
This is costs from a daycare in my area (and I'm only putting in the weekly rates, not the daily ones):
Infants/Toddlers: $267.50
Two: $227.50
Two 1/2: $215.00
Three and Up: $200.00
Kindergarten (M.F. 4k Program)
Before or After 1/2 Day: $155.00
Before & After 1/2 Day: $175.00
School Age (full day)
Before or After: $41.25
Before and After: $82.50
Now here's why this statement of "getting another job to provide daycare" bugs me. Especially as a full time working mom, and my husband works full time, we CANNOT afford daycare. We are lucky my sister in law is a stay at home mom, and for the first year, babysat for free 3 days a week. And now we pay $30 a week. That's $237.50 LESS then what we would be paying at this place!
So... I work 38 hours a week. Give or take a few either way. I get paid, and I will say it, $14.19 an hour (starting this week! before that it was $13.91). I get a paycheck every Friday. They are all roughly $400. My husband makes, like, $10 an hour. I think $9.80ish. He works 38-40 hours a week. He gets paid every other Thursday. His checks are roughly $700.
So in a month we bring home around $3000. We would have to pay $1070 a month in daycare costs. We are also not in a good financial place, because I got stuck with wedding costs (2 1/2 years ago now) that we had to throw last minute on my credit card, and we have lots of other bills on top of all of that. Like my insanely outrageous medical bills from having a baby.
To put it nicely: I have a crap ton of debt. Plus bills. Plus groceries and gas for a SUV with a 20 mile commute each way for work.
Really, we are living paycheck to paycheck. Right now we have about $80 left in our checking account... until Thursday. So we have to skip grocery shopping again tomorrow (2 weeks in a row!) and go on Saturday instead.
So yes, we cannot afford daycare. At all.
So now onto the getting another job thing so, as I was once told when this came up in one of my groups, I should get a second job because I'm mooching off of my relatives for babysitting (they volunteered, by the way). My schedule:
Sunday 9-5
Monday off
Tuesday 7-3
Wednesday 8-4
Thursday 7-1
Friday 7-3
Saturday off
Hubby's schedule: (his changes more then mine but I'm putting down a normal)
Sunday 1-9
Monday off
Tuesday 9-5
Wednesday off
Thursday 9-5
Friday 9-5 week 1, 1-9 week 2
Saturday: 1 to 9
Luke's bedtime is 8pm. Every. Single. Night. This will not change. I believe in structure.
Now, I am usually gone before Luke gets up in the mornings. He usually gets up around 730. So hubby takes him to the sitter, and I pick him up.
Now if I got a second job, and left Luke at the sitter all day long until my hubby picked him up... please tell me this: WHEN WOULD I SEE MY CHILD?
Plus also, here's another fun catch: we work retail. That includes weekends. Daycares are not open on weekends. So I would need to pay for daycare during the week and a sitter on the weekends? No thank you.
Plus, please tell me what little minimum wage part time job is actually going to cover that cost? Plus probable driving. Awesome. More gas costs. Since 14 gallons a week at $4.19 a gallon really isn't enough already.
Also, if I had a second job, and all this debt sitting around me... what part of me wants to basically throw that money away instantly, when I could instead throw it at the DEBT? None. That's what part.
I'm also tired enough dealing with a kid and housework and working one job. I do not have the strength to do a second job. Nothing would get done, and I would let my baby sit on the couch watching who knows what eating crackers while I took a quick nap on the comfy hardwood floor, because at that point it would be amazing. Screw the park, zoo, museum, etc. I'm. Taking. A. Nap.
Now, every time this "line" comes out, it's from a stay at home mom. And we all know where my feelings there lie. Really, I already work two jobs. I don't need a third. I'd probably jump off my balcony in the hopes of a broken leg so I could call in sick.
I realize I've rambled entirely. My day has been hectic. Working, baby that took an hour long nap so is even klutzier then normal and ends up getting a cut by his eye that will probably develop into a full blown black eye, and a fat lip. I felt horrible and gave him a brownie, curled up to watch Lion King in mommy and daddy's big bed, and when he got up off the pillow and came and cuddled on my chest, the world was right.
I hope I got my point across. Basically: getting a second job for babysitting... not a smart idea. Just annoying.
This is costs from a daycare in my area (and I'm only putting in the weekly rates, not the daily ones):
Infants/Toddlers: $267.50
Two: $227.50
Two 1/2: $215.00
Three and Up: $200.00
Kindergarten (M.F. 4k Program)
Before or After 1/2 Day: $155.00
Before & After 1/2 Day: $175.00
School Age (full day)
Before or After: $41.25
Before and After: $82.50
Now here's why this statement of "getting another job to provide daycare" bugs me. Especially as a full time working mom, and my husband works full time, we CANNOT afford daycare. We are lucky my sister in law is a stay at home mom, and for the first year, babysat for free 3 days a week. And now we pay $30 a week. That's $237.50 LESS then what we would be paying at this place!
So... I work 38 hours a week. Give or take a few either way. I get paid, and I will say it, $14.19 an hour (starting this week! before that it was $13.91). I get a paycheck every Friday. They are all roughly $400. My husband makes, like, $10 an hour. I think $9.80ish. He works 38-40 hours a week. He gets paid every other Thursday. His checks are roughly $700.
So in a month we bring home around $3000. We would have to pay $1070 a month in daycare costs. We are also not in a good financial place, because I got stuck with wedding costs (2 1/2 years ago now) that we had to throw last minute on my credit card, and we have lots of other bills on top of all of that. Like my insanely outrageous medical bills from having a baby.
To put it nicely: I have a crap ton of debt. Plus bills. Plus groceries and gas for a SUV with a 20 mile commute each way for work.
Really, we are living paycheck to paycheck. Right now we have about $80 left in our checking account... until Thursday. So we have to skip grocery shopping again tomorrow (2 weeks in a row!) and go on Saturday instead.
So yes, we cannot afford daycare. At all.
So now onto the getting another job thing so, as I was once told when this came up in one of my groups, I should get a second job because I'm mooching off of my relatives for babysitting (they volunteered, by the way). My schedule:
Sunday 9-5
Monday off
Tuesday 7-3
Wednesday 8-4
Thursday 7-1
Friday 7-3
Saturday off
Hubby's schedule: (his changes more then mine but I'm putting down a normal)
Sunday 1-9
Monday off
Tuesday 9-5
Wednesday off
Thursday 9-5
Friday 9-5 week 1, 1-9 week 2
Saturday: 1 to 9
Luke's bedtime is 8pm. Every. Single. Night. This will not change. I believe in structure.
Now, I am usually gone before Luke gets up in the mornings. He usually gets up around 730. So hubby takes him to the sitter, and I pick him up.
Now if I got a second job, and left Luke at the sitter all day long until my hubby picked him up... please tell me this: WHEN WOULD I SEE MY CHILD?
Plus also, here's another fun catch: we work retail. That includes weekends. Daycares are not open on weekends. So I would need to pay for daycare during the week and a sitter on the weekends? No thank you.
Plus, please tell me what little minimum wage part time job is actually going to cover that cost? Plus probable driving. Awesome. More gas costs. Since 14 gallons a week at $4.19 a gallon really isn't enough already.
Also, if I had a second job, and all this debt sitting around me... what part of me wants to basically throw that money away instantly, when I could instead throw it at the DEBT? None. That's what part.
I'm also tired enough dealing with a kid and housework and working one job. I do not have the strength to do a second job. Nothing would get done, and I would let my baby sit on the couch watching who knows what eating crackers while I took a quick nap on the comfy hardwood floor, because at that point it would be amazing. Screw the park, zoo, museum, etc. I'm. Taking. A. Nap.
Now, every time this "line" comes out, it's from a stay at home mom. And we all know where my feelings there lie. Really, I already work two jobs. I don't need a third. I'd probably jump off my balcony in the hopes of a broken leg so I could call in sick.
I realize I've rambled entirely. My day has been hectic. Working, baby that took an hour long nap so is even klutzier then normal and ends up getting a cut by his eye that will probably develop into a full blown black eye, and a fat lip. I felt horrible and gave him a brownie, curled up to watch Lion King in mommy and daddy's big bed, and when he got up off the pillow and came and cuddled on my chest, the world was right.
I hope I got my point across. Basically: getting a second job for babysitting... not a smart idea. Just annoying.
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)