Daycare and their costs

So there is a repeating sentence going through my mommy groups: "Well, if you can't afford daycare the obvious choice is to get a second job to cover the costs"

This is costs from a daycare in my area (and I'm only putting in the weekly rates, not the daily ones):

Infants/Toddlers: $267.50
Two: $227.50
Two 1/2: $215.00
Three and Up: $200.00

Kindergarten (M.F. 4k Program)
Before or After 1/2 Day: $155.00
Before & After 1/2 Day: $175.00

School Age (full day)
Before or After: $41.25
Before and After: $82.50

Now here's why this statement of "getting another job to provide daycare" bugs me. Especially as a full time working mom, and my husband works full time, we CANNOT afford daycare. We are lucky my sister in law is a stay at home mom, and for the first year, babysat for free 3 days a week. And now we pay $30 a week. That's $237.50 LESS then what we would be paying at this place!

So... I work 38 hours a week. Give or take a few either way. I get paid, and I will say it, $14.19 an hour (starting this week! before that it was $13.91). I get a paycheck every Friday. They are all roughly $400. My husband makes, like, $10 an hour. I think $9.80ish. He works 38-40 hours a week. He gets paid every other Thursday. His checks are roughly $700.

 So in a month we bring home around $3000. We would have to pay $1070 a month in daycare costs. We are also not in a good financial place, because I got stuck with wedding costs (2 1/2 years ago now) that we had to throw last minute on my credit card, and we have lots of other bills on top of all of that. Like my insanely outrageous medical bills from having a baby.

To put it nicely: I have a crap ton of debt. Plus bills. Plus groceries and gas for a SUV with a 20 mile commute each way for work.

Really, we are living paycheck to paycheck. Right now we have about $80 left in our checking account... until Thursday. So we have to skip grocery shopping again tomorrow (2 weeks in a row!) and go on Saturday instead.

So yes, we cannot afford daycare. At all.

So now onto the getting another job thing so, as I was once told when this came up in one of my groups, I should get a second job because I'm mooching off of my relatives for babysitting (they volunteered, by the way). My schedule:

Sunday 9-5
Monday off
Tuesday 7-3
Wednesday 8-4
Thursday 7-1
Friday 7-3
Saturday off

Hubby's schedule: (his changes more then mine but I'm putting down a normal)

Sunday 1-9
Monday off
Tuesday 9-5
Wednesday off
Thursday 9-5
Friday 9-5 week 1, 1-9 week 2
Saturday: 1 to 9

Luke's bedtime is 8pm. Every. Single. Night. This will not change. I believe in structure.

Now, I am usually gone before Luke gets up in the mornings. He usually gets up around 730. So hubby takes him to the sitter, and I pick him up.

Now if I got a second job, and left Luke at the sitter all day long until my hubby picked him up... please tell me this: WHEN WOULD I SEE MY CHILD?

Plus also, here's another fun catch: we work retail. That includes weekends. Daycares are not open on weekends. So I would need to pay for daycare during the week and a sitter on the weekends? No thank you.

Plus, please tell me what little minimum wage part time job is actually going to cover that cost? Plus probable driving. Awesome. More gas costs. Since  14 gallons a week at $4.19 a gallon really isn't enough already.

Also, if I had a second job, and all this debt sitting around me... what part of me wants to basically throw that money away instantly, when I could instead throw it at the DEBT? None. That's what part.

I'm also tired enough dealing with a kid and housework and working one job. I do not have the strength to do a second job. Nothing would get done, and I would let my baby sit on the couch watching who knows what eating crackers while I took a quick nap on the comfy hardwood floor, because at that point it would be amazing. Screw the park, zoo, museum, etc. I'm. Taking. A. Nap.

Now, every time this "line" comes out, it's from a stay at home mom. And we all know where my feelings there lie. Really, I already work two jobs. I don't need a third. I'd probably jump off my balcony in the hopes of a broken leg so I could call in sick.

I realize I've rambled entirely. My day has been hectic. Working, baby that took an hour long nap so is even klutzier then normal and ends up getting a cut by his eye that will probably develop into a full blown black eye, and a fat lip. I felt horrible and gave him a brownie, curled up to watch Lion King in mommy and daddy's big bed, and when he got up off the pillow and came and cuddled on my chest, the world was right.

I hope I got my point across. Basically: getting a second job for babysitting... not a smart idea. Just annoying.